Upside-Down Wisdom #29: Finding Yourself
“You need to figure out who you really are.”
“You need to figure out who you really are.”
It sounds noble.
Deep.
Like the start of a life-changing pilgrimage.
Buy the journal. Book the retreat.
Take the test: Myers-Briggs, Enneagram, Spirit Animal, Hogwarts House.
Surely, with enough self-reflection and candlelight, your True Self will emerge.
But here’s the thing:
That’s upside-down.
Because it treats “who you are” like a hidden object.
Something buried under years of confusion, conditioning, and poor decisions.
Like you’re a spiritual Rubik’s Cube. Twist just right, and voilà: enlightenment.
But what if the self you’re searching for is made of the same stuff as the search?
What if “who you are” isn’t a fixed identity waiting to be discovered, but an ever-changing swirl of thought, perception, and meaning?
What if there’s no True You hiding behind the curtain, because there’s no curtain in the first place?
Here’s the inside-out twist: you’re not here to find yourself.
You’re here to see through yourself.
And when you do?
What’s left isn’t an answer.
It’s freedom.
Spaciousness.
The quiet realization that you’ve always been okay, even without a tidy definition.
Because the one trying to figure it all out?
That’s just more thought.
And thought has never once held the answer to who you are.
Here’s today’s Upside-Down Wisdom:
You don’t need to figure out who you are. You just need to stop taking your identity so seriously.
This is Upside-Down Wisdom—a series where we flip the script on the conventional "wisdom" we've been taught. If you would like to read other posts in this series, please visit the Upside-Down Wisdom page.